Can you ballroom dance when you are mad or angry at your spouse? I sadly have to say through experience that it is almost impossible. When you are dancing with your spouse, there is such closeness. But the atmosphere becomes chilled when anger creeps in. You don’t look smooth as a couple and it does not look attractive in your appearance. You probably will not be able to concentrate on the steps you are trying to accomplish. So at that moment you should step away and go sit down until you can resolve the conflict, hopefully quickly.
In your marriage, anger and conflict also keep you from being close in your relationship. Your marriage will not be smooth or attractive, and you won’t be able to accomplish what God has planned for you on the days you are angry. The longer the conflict goes, the more likely bitterness will set in. There is power in physical touch, so when there is conflict, take your spouse’s hand and say you are sorry so the dance can continue on.
God’s Word-Colossians 3:13 Make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. [NLT]