In the last few months, Dan and I have had the privilege to travel to the Great Smoky Mountains and to the Pacific Northwest.  Both trips were a great getaway for the two of us.  

We decided not to bring the whole world’s problems on our vacation.  Yes, we unplugged from the news.  I can’t tell you how refreshing it was to get away from the bad news.  I felt it made me happier and in a better mood.  It may have been the mountains, the beach, the hiking trails, being with Dan, but I am thinking it was from being unplugged.  

If you think about it, we now have the whole world sitting in our pockets and purses with our cell phones.  We also have the whole world’s problems.  How dreadful.

Do you ask yourself, why am I in a bad mood?  Why am I not happy?  Maybe, some unplugged time might help you with a breath of fresh air.  Maybe.. we need to limit our time and be more selective with our news feeds. 

It is good to be informed but not inundated.  

Negativity affects all our relationships.  

Unplugged-try it for a happier you! 

A Valentine’s Dance

A favorite Valentine’s Dance memory was attending the Rod Pierson Big Band dance at Walford.   Dan and I would dress up for the occasion.  Many times we would have dinner with friends.  We would invite our Dance with Me Ministries class to join us for the evening.  For many of them, this was the first time out on a crowded dance floor.  What an experience to dance with the music of a live big band.  The music was amazing. ‘ In the Mood’ by the Glenn Miller Band was always a crowd favorite.  

It was a date. It was a time to get away from technology.  It was a time to enjoy the company of friends.  It was so nice to see what joy it brought to those attending. 

Here we are in 2022, with no dance to attend.  Ballroom dancing has definitely been a casualty of Covid.  Many of the dances we have attended in the past, no longer exist.  Some are hanging on by a thread.  Many dance instructors are no longer in business.  People are afraid to be with people.  Is this healthy?  We now have even another reason to be more sedentary and non-social.  All the things that are horrible for a person.  

With all the benefits of ballroom dancing, it would be a tragedy if it no longer exists.  I think of what it has done in my own marriage.  Dan and I have an activity we do together.  It’s a planned date. It brings us laughter and joy.  Dancing keeps us moving.  We have met amazing friends through our social contacts of dancing.   

In my dreams, ballroom dancing would become an activity that married couples would want to do together on a regular basis.  It would bring couples closer to each other and with friends.  We all could use a little more closeness right now. 

I don’t know if Ballroom dancing can survive this Covid epidemic.  Praying it will!

Valentines Dance 2009

Barn Dance

  • Delicious Food
  • Wonderful Friends
  • Barn Venue
  • Harvest Moon
  • Camp Fire
  • Date Night
  • Romantic Music

What’s there not to like about a night out dancing with our spouse at a beautiful barn venue? Then you have sweet friends to share it with over delicious homemade food.  How about a fun night out?  

With Covid we have become more homebodies.  Less social than ever. We have forgotten how important an in person social event is for our health.   Get out, have fun and do it for your well-being. 

We need each other!

God’s Word- Hebrews 10:24-25   24 and let’s consider how to encourage one another in love and good deeds, 25 not abandoning our own meeting together, as is the habit of some people, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.

Fall Dating


Summer Dating

Part 5

Don’t forget to take time for each other! A few summer dating ideas!

  • Bicycling

Ely Try Dan and Debbies Creamery. https://dananddebbies.com/, Cedar Valley Nature Trail, Heritage Trail in Dubuque

  • Hiking
  • Botanical Gardens

Dubuque Arboretum-https://dubuquearboretum.net/(be sure to check out the Ace Hardware near the entrance of the arboretum)https://stevesace.com/ 

Bickelhop Aboretum in Clinton, Iowa https://www.eicc.edu/about-eicc/colleges-and-centers/bickelhaupt/

Morgan Creek Park in Cedar Rapids-Aboretum https://www.mycountyparks.com/County/Linn/Park/Morgan-Creek-Park.aspx

  • Summer Outdoor Dancing
Dubuque Aboretum

Spring Dating

Happy Spring! Ideas for Spring dating!

  • Fishing (I have to take Dan along for this one so he can put my worm on my hook) : 0-Pleasant Creek State Recreational Area, Lake McBride State Park
My catch at Pleasant Creek
  • Hiking-Indian Creek, Kent Park, Lake McBride and Wapsipinicon
Spring hiking at Kent Park

God’s Word-Psalm 89:11
The heavens are Yours, the earth also is Yours;
The world and all it contains, You have founded them.

Looking Our Best

Part 4

In the past, our weekly dancing dates included getting dressed up and looking our best for each other!  It was a date!  This was before the dreaded Coronavirus struck and everything was shut down. 

Now, we find ourselves in lockdown mode, isolated from others as we work from home and stay away from the gym.  It is very easy not to put much effort in looking our best.  Let’s face it, we can wear our sweat pants and a t-shirt all the time and no one ever knows except our spouse.  We don’t even have to comb our hair, wear deodorant or take a bath.  : (  We live in a very casual world. 

I went months without wearing make-up.  I felt like I needed a full review on how to apply it to my face. : (

Looking our best does not mean wearing a formal or a suit and tie each day, but it does mean putting some effort into taking care of yourself.  Looking the best that we can. This is good for you and for your relationship with your spouse. It is easy to feel dumpy, when you look dumpy! : ) 

I remember our early dating years. We took time to look our very best for each other.  We would not have thought of doing anything but.  It was a time to impress each other.  I feel keeping this mindset helps keep our relationship stronger.  However, over the many years of being together, we feel it becomes less important to look good for each other.  Not sure why?  I always joke with Dan, this is why the good Lord takes away our good vision, so that as we age, we always look beautiful to each other!  

Recently, we celebrated a date night by cooking a meal together at home.  We both dressed up, fixed our  hair, applied some smelly stuff, shaved our stubble and we pretended we were going out on the town!  Why?  It’s important for each other and our marriage! 

2009-Our first year of Ballroom Dance Dates

God’s Word– Song of Songs 4:7 You are altogether beautiful, my darling;

    there is no flaw in you.

Dancing in the Moonlight-Because Life’s Too Short Not Too!

A Covid dance date! Such a heartwarming story! Please cut and pace in Facebook.

Part 1-Dating in the Times of Covid(February 19,2021)

Part 2-Winter Dating(Feb 26,2021)

Part 3-Dancing in the Moonlight-Because life’s too short not too(March 5,2021)

Part 4-Looking Our Best(March 12, 2021)

Part 5-10 Reasons to Ballroom Dance(March 19, 2021)

Part 6-Spring Dating(March 26,2021)

Part 7-Summer Dating(June 25,2021)

Part 8-Fall Dating(September 24, 2021)

Winter Dating

A few of our Winter Dating Ideas!

  • Dancing together at home – In the past, we have purchased DVD’s to work on our ballroom dance steps and techniques at home.  Our favorites are from Shawn Trautman. They are very easy to follow. https://www.shawntrautman.com/  They now also have a monthly online, on demand option. This would be awesome activity for the winter months.  You can cancel anytime. 
  • Dinner in front of our fireplace-pic
  • Friday Afternoon-dessert  and coffee together
  • Making new recipes together
  • Snowshoeing and Winter hiking-(No bugs or snakes)Wickiup, Indian Creek, Kent Park (Lake and Valley View Trail loop), Morgan Creek Park and Whitewater Canyon near Cascade, IA
  • Friday night pizza and a glass of wine (Our favorite pizza is BBQ Chicken)
  • Noontime walks together
Snowshoeing at Indian Creek Nature Center
Snowshoeing Sights

Part 1-Dating in the Times of Covid(February 19,2021)

Part 2-Winter Dating(Feb 26,2021)

Part 3-Dancing in the Moonlight-Because life’s too short not too(March 5,2021)

Part 4-Looking Our Best(March 12, 2021)

Part 5-10 Reasons to Ballroom Dance(March 19, 2021)

Part 6-Spring Dating(March 26,2021)

Part 7-Summer Dating(June 25,2021)

Part 8-Fall Dating(September 24, 2021)

Please share your Winter Date Ideas!

Dating in the Times of Covid

Dating was easy for Dan and I when we were ballroom dancing each weekend. We took advantage of that opportunity.  Our dates were pretty much planned for us.  We dressed up and took time to just enjoy each other’s company. That came to an abrupt end in March of 2020 when all group ballroom dances were cancelled.  

With Dan working from home, we have more time together than ever.  But that is not a date!   

Having fun and enjoying each other’s company remains very important and maybe even more so.  You may feel guilty doing anything enjoyable while so many are suffering.  Yet keeping your marriage healthy during trials will go a long way in maintaining your emotional health. However, you may need to get more creative since you may not be able to get out and about.

We would love for you to share what you have been doing for dating during Covid.

God’s Word: Ecclesiastes 9:7-8 (The Message)

Seize life! Eat bread with gusto, Drink wine with a robust heart. Oh yes—God takes pleasure in your pleasure! Dress festively every morning. Don’t skimp on colors and scarves. Relish life with the spouse 

Part 1-Dating in the Times of Covid(Feb 19,2021)

Part 2-Winter Dating(Feb 26,2021)

Part 3-Dancing in the Moonlight-Because Life’s Too Short Not Too(March 5,2021)

Part 4-Looking Our Best(March 12, 2021)

Part 5-10 Reasons to Ballroom Dance(March 19,2021)

Part 5-Spring Dating(March 26,2021)

Part 6-Summer Dating(June 25,2021)

Part 7-Fall Dating(September 24, 2021)

Let’s Date!