So we know that stepping on each other’s toes and making mistakes are part of ballroom dancing. We also know this is a part of a marriage relationship. None of us are perfect, and sooner or later you will hurt your spouse. Most likely on a daily basis.
How do you react when your spouse makes a mistake? Are you quick to forgive? Or do you hold onto it, to try to hurt the other? Do you let bitterness set in? Do you go to bed angry?
The longer we stew the longer it takes to heal. God tells us not to let the sun go down with anger. That means within 24 hours to make things right. Praying with your spouse before you go to sleep will help with forgiving. Have you ever tried to pray in anger? Ephesians 4:26-27
It has never been easy for me to say, I am sorry.” This has been a learning process for me, and practice has made it easier. I want to blame it on my stubborn German heritage. : )
Because we have a deeper emotional tie with our spouse, we can find it harder to forgive. We are closer and most likely spend more time with our spouse. Now that Dan works from home, we spend a lot more time together. More time together=more time we offend each other. Working with each other on imperfections will go a long way in a marriage.
Questions to ask yourself? How can I change, not how can my spouse change? Are you perfect?
Couples that are still married have learned to forgive and move forward. Unforgiveness keeps us in the past.
God’s Word-Ephesians 4:26-27(NIV)
26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.